Dear YOU,
As I sit here in the stillness of the mountains, far from the energetic whirlwind of Ibiza, I find myself deeply reflecting on this past year. 2024 has been a year of challenges, growth, and learning—a year that has reminded me of the profound importance of pausing, stepping back, and reconnecting with the essence of who we are.
This practice of stillness has taught me that transformation is not about reaching some distant destination. Instead, it is about showing up in the present moment, noticing the patterns that no longer serve us, and gently choosing to meet ourselves with compassion. These quiet pauses have also reminded me of the classroom that life offers us, with its mirrors reflecting back the deeper truths we sometimes avoid. And yes, these truths—often uncomfortable—are the portals to real and lasting change.
Looking back, I can’t help but reflect on how our culture encourages us to constantly do more, achieve more, and be more. We live in a world that celebrates "service to self"—a pursuit of individual gain that often leaves us feeling disconnected, lonely, and even unworthy. I’ve witnessed this firsthand, not only in others but also in my own life.
This year, I faced some of these truths in a deeply personal way. I’ve come to understand that the pain and unworthiness I once carried were mine to acknowledge. One of the most profound lessons I’ve learned is that even the most painful experiences can be incredible teachers. For me, it was through reconciling these parts of myself—meeting them with honesty and compassion—that I began to create a new foundation within. This is the work: not running from our vulnerability, but embracing it as a source of strength.
So how do we transform ourselves in a grounded, lasting way? It begins with slowing down. Transformation starts in the quiet moments when we notice the patterns that we’ve been repeating—patterns that may feel soothing or comfortable in the short term but hold us back in the long run. When we avoid our pain, it’s human. We all seek relief when things feel uncomfortable. But when avoidance becomes a pattern, it keeps us from seeing what’s really there, beneath the surface.
True change happens when we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. It’s not about being strong or having all the answers. It’s about being present with the parts of ourselves that feel tender, broken, or not good enough—and meeting them with the kindness they deserve. In doing so, we stop projecting these feelings onto others and start turning inward, creating an internal structure of care, compassion, and sovereignty.
This has been my greatest takeaway from 2024: transformation is not something we wait for—it is something we actively cultivate, moment by moment, by showing up for ourselves with courage and gentleness. And as we close out this year, I invite you to reflect on your own journey. What patterns have surfaced for you? What lessons have you learned? And how can you meet yourself with more kindness as you step into 2025?
Thank you for being part of this community. It is through our shared stories and reflections that we continue to grow, together. I hope you’ll take a moment to watch the video I’ve created, where I share more about this journey and how these lessons have shaped me.
May the year ahead bring clarity, transformation, and deeper connection—for all of us.
With love and gratitude,
Stephanie
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